Couples: Recover Love Permanently...
In The Next 45 Days Using The SafeTalk Method That Combines The Best Tools And Resources From The Top 5 Leading Relationship Experts...
Couples everywhere are tired of the incessant vibe of falling out of love, exhausted from the stress of poor communication, and flat out fed up with the looming shadow of divorce that meets the fate of 50% of all couples.
Are you tired of communication that seems to recycle the “no-where” plan?
Worried how your relationship dynamics is affecting your children?
Need more balance of giving and taking in the relationship?
Have a faint memory of what passionate or sex with meaning used to feel like?
Has the relationship mojo left or currently making a slow exit?
Are you passing down bad relationship habits to your children?
or even worse… Have any thoughts of divorce leaked into the picture lately?
If any of these have crossed your mind...
settle in as I’m about to tell you why it doesn’t surprise me and why today, the deck is not stacked in your favor.
How Did I Discover This "Bulls-Eye"?
Hi My Name is Ed Ferrigan
...and 23 years ago I finally admitted I was unskilled at relationships.
I was already 38 years old...
If I was lucky, anyone I dated may have lasted 3 months - if I was lucky. Eventually, I got to 6 months then eventually marriage only to have it blow up 3 years into it.
But the lessons kept coming and I kept learning...
Ed Ferrigan M.A., CPCC, SEP
Looking back at that time in my life, I now call it my PhD in relationships because we literally processed our challenges from 8 am, until late afternoon, every day for most of those 3 years. (ugh!)
Believe it or not, we also had amazing skills as therapists and recently certified practitioners of the Hendricks (Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks at the Hendricks Institute) method of relationships. A world renowned program made famous by Oprah herself.
But knowing skills intellectually, is very different from having the ability to implement them under times of stress and being triggered.
It's the difference between reading about something and actually practicing so you get all the nuances...
We were also young and immature.
Looking back it's always easier to see it...
..we had knowledge… but not a lot of practice doing it.
Eventually, we parted ways, I think from exhaustion…
I learned LOT about what not to do.
It was my wake-up call.
I felt bad and was embarrassed as a man...
I so desperately wanted to have an awesome relationship that I was willing to do anything to have it.
And I had just failed miserably...
Never before in my life did I feel so inadequate and insecure.
Now, if you knew me, you’d find that hard to believe because I’m determined and unshakable with most things. I have a will that doesn’t take “no” for an answer and will seek out knowledge until something get resolved…
This one had beaten me. I failed and failed big time…
But it takes two right.
Eventually, I decided it was my life's fate to sort it out because in my heart nothing mattered as much.
I thought to myself, "How could anything be more important than to love and be loved?"
For some people it’s making a million bucks and living in an expensive neighborhood and driving the super cool car.
For me it’s always been different…
At the end of my life I wanted to be able to say I succeeded in love.
Nothing was or is more important – even today.
The choice was easy back then... I made the commitment to do whatever it takes to figure it out.
My Dream Was Not Unlike Others...
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To have someone in my life I could call my very best friend knowing they would be there through thick-or-thin...
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To hold me and comfort me when life got me down...
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To listen to my challenges without giving advice – unless I asked for it...
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To encourage me when I felt helpless or disempowered...
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To remind me of who I really was when I felt insecure...
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To share good meals with...
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No more “alone” vacations...
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To build a life-story together...
I wanted to know we could work through anything, had each others back, have unshakable trust, and that love would get stronger and not eventually fade into a fantasy I had somehow dreamed up…